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The Lack of Communication: Can We Talk?

Everything in a relationship hinges on communication. It is the foundation of the relationship. Your concerns are voiced, your discussions of situations in the relationship are heard, your views, opinions and thoughts are all shared through communication.Read more inside...
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The Lack of Communication: Can We Talk?

Written by Anthony Small

 

Everything in a relationship hinges on communication. It is the foundation of the relationship. Your concerns are voiced, your discussions of situations in the relationship are heard, your views, opinions and thoughts are all shared through communication.

 

Without commmunication, it's hard to have a relationship. Therefore, communication, particularly good communication, is essential to every relationship. Therefore, let me ask you this: What do you do if your partner does something you don't like? Do you tell them, or do you keep it to yourself thinking somehow, someway, it is going to work itself out on its own? How will your partner know something is wrong if you don't communicate that to them. Without you speaking up, they will continue to do the same thing over and over again which will eventually make you more upset and frustrated. I have seen so many situations with people who keep things to themselves because they think that the problem will go away on its own. In reality, it only makes it worst.

 

You don't ever want a problem to linger without being resolved. If it does, before you realize it, another problem will have piled on to the first problem, then a second, and so on. When you finally do speak up, weeks will have gone by and new problems will have come up, potentially causing one to explode with accusations that come across the wrong way and may cause the other to become resentful. This will surely start or inflame an argument, thus causing challenges that will hinder effective communication.

 

To handle the one issue of holding things in instead of communicating how you feel at the onset, you have to ask yourself why are you keeping things to yourself? Whatever is going on in your head needs to come out, because it is going to come out eventually anyway. Either it is going to come out by you telling your partner, or you are going to keep it locked up inside so long that it will come out in your attitude or actions, and frustration will set in and cause so many other problems that you will not want to deal with the issues at all.

 

So I want to challenge you today. Just take one thing that may be bothering you or causing you concerns and respectfully share it with your partner. Let them know upfront that it is hard for you to talk about it, but you are going to try and you would like for them to be supportive. Try it and see how it works.

 

Always remember,  when communicating with your partner do what Ephesians 4:29 says: Don't use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.

 

 

About the Author:

Anthony Small, contributing editor for PreachingWoman.com, is an entreprenuer that loves to write for the glory of God.  He is the CEO of PreachPastorPreach.com and TakeYourBusinessToTheNextLevel.com web design company.  Visit his website at http://www.TakeYourBusinessToTheNextLevel.comor http://www.PreachPastorPreach.com